Today I began working again, with an old coaching client of mine. It has been 6 years since we first worked together and in that time an enormous amount has happened, for both of us. We started the session, as I always do, just understanding where he was at and how he felt about being coached again. He announced that somehow he felt disappointed that he was here once again. Here, needing some sort of support to define and plan the next chapter of his life and to understand why he wasn’t, where he thought he would be by now.
I asked him to spend some time writing a list of what had happened over the last 6 years, what he had achieved, created, lost and found. I then asked him to also list all the things he might acknowledge himself for, what he had learned about himself, how he had grown, what had and hadn’t work for him, where he felt he had excelled and even where he felt he may have dropped the ball a little…
We looked at all aspects of his life, from his career, to his health, to even becoming a father.
As we completed the exercise, only silence followed.
‘You there?’ I said.
‘Yea’ he said and more silence followed.
‘So what are you thinking about?’ I asked, hearing a little secret sniffle.
And then, what exploded through my computer, was an astonished, emotional, exhilarated flow of disbelief, at just how and what he had achieved in that time and also the utter surprise at the lack of reflection he had allowed himself within the last 6, very busy years.
Note: It is important that we leave our ego at the door when beginning an exercise like this, that we are as open to honouring what HASN’T worked as we are, to what has, and as we reflect, we do it without judging, wallowing or refusing responsibility for what has taken place along the way.
So here it is, laid on the line for you. Take some time to reflect! Try it out and see how looking back, can actually support you in moving forward…..
I chose this beautiful image to illustrate the blog today (taken by his adoring daddy) of my beautiful little man, Jesse Red. Today is his last day of being 6 and when I look at this gorgeous little being, in all his splendor, he will always, as he was from the moment he came into this world, be one of the greatest accomplishments of my life!