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Here is a fantastic quote posted by one of our many insightful MMQ readers that really puts into words my philosophy and approach to LIVING, LOVING and LETTING GO!
“There is a common misunderstanding among the human beings who have ever been born on earth that the best way to live is to try to avoid pain and just try to get comfortable. You see this even in insects and animals and birds. All of us are the some. A much more interesting, kind and joyful approach to life is to begin to develop our curiosity, not caring whether the object of our curiosity is bitter or sweet. To lead to a life that goes beyond pettiness and prejudice and always wanting to make sure that everything turns out on our own terms, to lead a more passionate, full, and delightful life than that, we must realize that we can endure a lot of pain and pleasure for the sake of finding out who we are and what this world is, how we tick and how our world ticks, how the whole thing just is. If we are committed to comfort at any cost, as soon as we come up against the least edge of pain, we’re going to run; we’ll never know what’s beyond that particular barrier or wall or fearful thing…Ordinarily we are swept away by habitual momentum. We don’t interrupt our patterns even slightly. With practice, however, we learn to stay with a broken heart, with a nameless fear, with the desire for revenge. Sticking with uncertainty is how we learn to relax in the midst of chaos, how we learn to be cool when the ground beneath us suddenly disappears.”
-Pema Chodron
Nothing but love ….
  • Sally T.

    I feel like running this week, not gonna lie. But I’m more afraid to miss out on what’s beyond this particular wall than I am of scaling it and falling off. Great share!

  • Nadine

    LOL thanks for this:-) My new year’s going well thus far. I have taken the leap, got out of the house signed up for a face-to-face writing course which I have to admit has been VERY DAUNTING. I am looking forward to the next article about – Your circle of Influence :-) – HINT HINT.

  • mimi81

    And here i was on the verge of writing some precious people off
    (immediate family), because the experience of them, and surrounding them
    always seems to end up with me hurting or feeling resentful…..It is mostly because we live so far away from one another, and we always try to condense years apart into a two week holiday – every three years or so.
    Needless to say things tend to get blown out of proportion, the
    past slithers it’s head back into our lives and old feelings of
    jealousy, rivalry, and rejection flare up again….

    I always come out of theses holidays feeling like a misunderstood and sulky child
    bearing the weight of the world on her shoulders.
    So the big plan this time was… cut all ties, and write them off once and for
    all….to steer clear of the pain, and protect myself from all
    expectation! (a bit of an ostrich tactic if you ask me)

    That was the plan……until reality hit me :)

    Stepping back into my day-to-day life, i have just realised that these
    experiences, this stormy relationship i have with my family, is a scource of deep pain BUT IS ALSO what makes me who i am (to others):
    * it is what makes me the kind of friend i am HERE on this side of the world,
    * the wife i am HERE,
    * the creative person that i am HERE….
    * The future mother i will be HERE….to my children
    I am now convinced that it is in the same moment as you are fighting against whatever has your
    back to the wall that you discover something new about yourself….and now i have.

    If i run away from that, or from them i run away from myself…..and from
    learning a little more about myself. Yes indeed, this journey is all about
    acceptance, letting go, and soaking in whatever new discovery about
    ourselves we make along the way.

  • Madeleine

    Thank you Pema for your wisdom! XXX

  • Stephen

    Thanks you for sharing. I think we all can relate to what she wrote.

  • JolenePlatt

    I know I’m a bit late on this not quite sure how this lovely piece got past me but if anyone is reading this now I guess this is to you!
    I have been for the past 3 years going on 4 trying to live and learn from a particular incident that left me in pieces. My husband and I have been threw a lot together. We started dating when we where 16 and have over come lots together! We are now both 31 married with the most beautiful lil 6 yr old cub. We have been threw some bumpy roads and have always come out the other side together. I wish I could get back to that ever loving bliss we had that no mater what happened we always had each other and our love and the trust that can’t be explained out loud! It’s like the trust that a newborn has in it’s mom or the trust that you have in your heart when you alow someone to hold your heart for the reast of your life! I lost that trust one night well shutting off the computer to go to bed. I notice an email from my husband to my best friend tell her to erase all the pictures from the other night because he didn’t want her husband to see them and that he did the same.
    After I confronted him after what seemed like a life time we all decided to forgive and forget.
    How I have tried to forgive and forget! But my life is not and will not ever be the same!
    No matter what I do I can’t get it back!!!
    I guess my question is will it come back after time? I know we didn’t build the trust up over night so do I just have to wait?
    I still love him with all my heart but am I a fool for thinking we will get it back??
    All my love and light to my MMQ family and as always love to you Vashti for everything you do for us!

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