What is REAL?” asked the Velveteen Rabbit one day… “Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?”

“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When someone loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.”

“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.

“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”

“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept.

“Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand… once you are Real you can’t become unreal again. It lasts for always.”

Margery Williams - The Velveteen Rabbit

  • Sarita Camacho

    Love it. I’ll tell this story to my childreen! Thanks, amazing Vashti!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100004471262244 Marie Yateman

    This has brought back some wonderful memories and my beloved Cindy doll.  I combed and combed her hair until she was bald.  My mum was a wonderful seamstress and would make clothes for her.  I loved her until she was replaced with a new doll.  I can remember also reading the Velveteen Rabbit to my son when he was very young. Happy Valentines to you and your beautiful children.

  • Claire Abbott

    One of my favourite books as a child. Thought provoking x

  • Janice Tekcan

    ahh, so lovely. :-)

  • La Lena

    <3<3<3<3

  • http://twitter.com/PennyDouglas Penny Douglas

    <3 <3 <3 love to you and the littles. I love you all so much. Hugs!

  • Susana Matos Nunes

    Ooohhh, so sweet, so true!
    Love it! Love it!
    To me the way I love those I love is not equal but it’s very, very real with all!! And beautiful, magical… Unique!
    Love you V, JR and Indi… and you too A… Always!!
    Wish you guys a magic Valentine Day!

    • Susana Matos Nunes

      By the way… Love your pic. You look good in the midle of the heart, like You’re in the midle of MMQ community heart! In the midle of all of us, in all our hearts… X

  • Malin Harbeck

    …you stole my heart, my dear ! And I don´t please or want you to give it back, i” just” please you to keep it in your ´s for the rest of …..your life ! ?

  • Simona

     Amore é…..
    Tutti i comments in MaybeMcqueen sono postati con Amore!!
    Buon San Valentino a tutti!!
    Un abbraccio
    Simona
     

  • Susan_Mangan

    Gorgeous. Love it!!

    Happy Valentine’s everyone xx

  • M_perrault

    I didn’t become “real” until I met my love Jon at 29 years old.  Nobody in my entire life had ever loved me until I met him.  He taught me how to love myself after years of being abused, he taught me I was worthy of respect and loyalty, he made me believe I was good enough as myself and that I could do anything because he believed in me.  He was someone everyone respected and looked up to so for him to feel that way about me must have meant it was true.  He never said anything that wasn’t true.  He  never spoke without deep thought; his words were law.   Then in August 2011 he was murdered and I lost the only person who ever really loved me.  As I moved through life with him  I felt as though I was nothing.  Just a shell that resembled a human but that was void of all value.  Then as if he was talking to me through the universe I realized I still am all of those above things.  Why?  Because like the Velveteen Rabbit says, “once you are Real you can’t become unreal again”.  I now know that the power of love lasts forever and it stays with me giving me strength at my weakest moments.  That’s what love is, it’s what make us alive.  Happy Valentines Day Jon and thank you for making me Real.

    • M_perrault

      sorry typo * ” as i moved through life WITHOUT him I felt as though I was nothing…

    • Vashti

      …… To the magnificent beings that come into our lives and teach us to love ourselves. Their departure, which is out of our control, feeling like the ultimate universal test, as to whether we have learned what they so beautifully taught us, in the short time spent together.

      Thank you

      • M_perrault

        I am going to meet you one day.  I want to work with you.  I have a story that will be told as well. (I talk as though it’s a fact because I want the universe to hear me, just in case you’re wondering)

        • M_perrault

          Also I want to say that YES! a test indeed (heartbreaking one)…. it has taken me a long time to be able to think of all I lost and all the pain and find the “good” in it.  Your blog site has been so therapeutic for me.  I feel so much less alone with my loss.

  • M_perrault

    Vashti you are an amazing woman and have a beautiful spirit.  I’m new to your blog but have read every post as well as checked out every link you have on this site.  You are so strong! To be able find the “good” in life after you have suffered such a monumental loss is truly inspiring.  From one widow and mother to another, I want you to know that your courage gives me courage, your strength gives me strength and your words give me hope.  You are helping complete strangers while being broken yourself… Your husband must be with you always, he must be so proud and honored that you are the mother of his children.  You are a beautiful human being and the world needs more people like you.  Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being my inspiration and providing me with hope that if you found light at the end of this dark tunnel of grief that I can do the same.  THANK YOU!

  • Michelbarreau

    vashti vous etes unique bisou

  • Riochica

    Beautiful!  Thanks for reminding me of this…

  • Mansotogracia

    That’s so beautiful. I really admire your courage.

  • Malin

    I want to send you and the MMQ community a picture, which impressed and inspired me so much !
    I really love “The big way” of Friedensreich Hundertwasser and I just want to share it with you. :-)
    This lovely man remembers me so much to my so beloved father, which died of cancer ten years ago.

    http://www.hundertwasser.com/paint/view-224#

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GU3rL9mZA6Y

    I hope this light your way maybe a little more !

    XXX

    Malin