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Here is a fantastic read from one of my newest and most inspiring mentors and whilst your brain might hurt first time round as you grapple with its meaning and relevance to you, it will slowly but surely, with a little exploration, offer up the invitation for you to live life with a whole new perspective. Make sure you read again and again and take the time to identify the monsters, ghosts and dragons that are keeping you from living, loving and learning all that LIFE is offering up!
The art of self acceptance by John Dashfield
Isn’t one of our deepest desires to be who we really are? To be the fullest expression of ourselves without all the fear and protective mechanisms that we’ve made up to supposedly keep us safe. Is this so much to ask?

It can seem so.

It seems to me that we will go to extraordinary lengths to defend the made up idea we have of who we really are. We’ll argue with ourselves, argue with others, live in unhappy households, spend our days doing what we really don’t want to do and deprive ourselves of living an authentic life.

All to hang on to a bunch of made up ideas. George Pransky calls the ego the ‘pain magnet’.

For years I was into ‘self-improvement’. I judged myself. I rejected myself. Innocently, I thought I had to work on myself. To create a better version of myself because I didn’t think I was good enough.

I used to be judgemental of others. Sometimes I still am. But I also learned that judging others doesn’t define them. It just defines me as a judgemental person. Identifying with that made up version of myself once again.

Nicky came to me for some coaching. She was successful in her career. She had very strong and fixed ideas on how things needed to be. But she was unhappy. Her made up ideas were making her extremely, physically ill. She too had been thinking that she needed to work on herself.

One of our greatest gifts is consciousness and it is what begins to set us free. 
A passage I read in ‘A course in miracles’ said:

‘Children perceive frightening ghosts and monsters and dragons, and they are terrified. Yet if they ask someone they trust for the meaning of what they perceive, and are willing to let their own interpretations go in favour of reality, their fear goes with them. When a child is helped to translate his “Ghost” into a curtain, his “Monster” into a shadow, and his “Dragon” into a dream he is no longer afraid, and laughs happily at his own fear’

Through the gift of consciousness we always have the opportunity to see beyond the ego; beyond our own Ghosts, Monsters and Dragons.

What resides beyond these made up illusions is who we really are.

A couple of days ago I had a session with my coach. She helped me wake up in a part of my life where I had temporarily gone to sleep. No work was required. Just a gentle reminder.

As my consciousness rose up I laughed. I felt free. I had new choices. It was easy.

My coach reminded me that stuck feelings are a tap on the shoulder. A nudge. An invitation. An opportunity to raise our level of consciousness and free ourselves of the hallucination that separates us from who we really are.

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  • Nadine

    Oh I love it. And it’s true. I love – ” stuck feelings are a tap on the shoulder. A nudge. An invitation. An opportunity to raise our level of consciousness and free ourselves of the hallucination that separates us from who we really are.”

    I’ve always felt that. That there’s a reason behind why I feel the way I feel towards things, reactions. Why you tend to go back to those feelings without understanding how you got there – back from where you started
    Our bodies and minds truly are magnificent.


    PS: Also amazing to know that someone as strong as you , can be so human. We sometimes place people on pedestals. So true that everyone, somewhere ( no matter how strong) looks up to someone else – amazing these chain reactions that circulates throughout the world yet keeps us all connected.

  • millie

    Great. It´s an extraordinary way to describe how i have been filling and what y have been thinking since y first start following you, especially about the judgemental part. Sometimes we just judge others to avoid looking up to ourselves and being in contact with our own fears and insecurities, which are surely deposited in those we judge.
    Love to you Vashti, you are a huge inspiration. Be proud of yourself

  • Sally T.

    Wonderful! I’m devouring works by Habib Sadeghi and he and Dashfield both talk about how your thoughts always precede emotion. And by changing your thoughts, you can shift the way you feel (emotions). The way you feel is the energy you release into the universe, which ultimately comes back to you. I’m forever changed by this understanding.

  • Penny Douglas

    Very wonderful words Vashti. Lovely as always. Thanks for sharing this. It’s so true. :) <3

    • Stephen

      I agree. Profound words. Something that needs to be read over and over again.

  • Stephen

    I believe this is something that all of us fall into, at some point in our lives. I agree. We need to re-read this often to wake us from our Ghosts, Monsters, and Dragons that we create. Yes it’s up to us to wake us into this self-acceptance. I agree, Stuck feelings are a tap on the shoulder.
    Brilliant. A must read over and over again.
    Thanks for sharing

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