It can seem so.
It seems to me that we will go to extraordinary lengths to defend the made up idea we have of who we really are. We’ll argue with ourselves, argue with others, live in unhappy households, spend our days doing what we really don’t want to do and deprive ourselves of living an authentic life.
All to hang on to a bunch of made up ideas. George Pransky calls the ego the ‘pain magnet’.
For years I was into ‘self-improvement’. I judged myself. I rejected myself. Innocently, I thought I had to work on myself. To create a better version of myself because I didn’t think I was good enough.
I used to be judgemental of others. Sometimes I still am. But I also learned that judging others doesn’t define them. It just defines me as a judgemental person. Identifying with that made up version of myself once again.
Nicky came to me for some coaching. She was successful in her career. She had very strong and fixed ideas on how things needed to be. But she was unhappy. Her made up ideas were making her extremely, physically ill. She too had been thinking that she needed to work on herself.
One of our greatest gifts is consciousness and it is what begins to set us free.
A passage I read in ‘A course in miracles’ said:
‘Children perceive frightening ghosts and monsters and dragons, and they are terrified. Yet if they ask someone they trust for the meaning of what they perceive, and are willing to let their own interpretations go in favour of reality, their fear goes with them. When a child is helped to translate his “Ghost” into a curtain, his “Monster” into a shadow, and his “Dragon” into a dream he is no longer afraid, and laughs happily at his own fear’
Through the gift of consciousness we always have the opportunity to see beyond the ego; beyond our own Ghosts, Monsters and Dragons.
What resides beyond these made up illusions is who we really are.
A couple of days ago I had a session with my coach. She helped me wake up in a part of my life where I had temporarily gone to sleep. No work was required. Just a gentle reminder.
As my consciousness rose up I laughed. I felt free. I had new choices. It was easy.
My coach reminded me that stuck feelings are a tap on the shoulder. A nudge. An invitation. An opportunity to raise our level of consciousness and free ourselves of the hallucination that separates us from who we really are.
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