Time to wake up!…

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At my beloved coffee shop this morning, sharing a little banter with another caffeine and Italian – joy- addict, we got chatting about the end of the year creeping in and that with 2013 around the corner, there are many people already declaring what they ‘hope’ for in the New Year.

My café chat, reminded me of the old wife’s tale, about the frog. The story goes that if you throw a frog in boiling water it will quickly jump out. But if you place the frog in a pan of cold water and slowly raise the temperature, the gradual warming fools the frog into happily snoozing……unit in fact, the frog will cook to death.

It made me think of just how easy it is to let things in our lives, slowly build. Things that are detrimental, unhealthy, destructive and above all, place us in a holding pattern that stops us from really living!

There are many tales of incredible individuals who have just woken up one day, looked in the mirror at a reflection of someone that they no longer recognize and proceeded to shed multiple kilos of sadness and avoidance. Or those who have watched the dynamic between a happy couple in the park and finally owned the fact that their relationship has them in a strangle hold with no chance to breathe, move or grow into the person they had always imagined they could be.

It is important that as we end this year, that we take some time to check the temperature of the water. If in fact your have found yourself snoozing, while things are really hotting up around you, then it may be time to wake up and  take a leap!  BUT, be warned! As you leap, be sure not to hop ,‘out of the frying pan and into the fire.’ Take some important time to explore what has brought you to this place in your life so far. So then, as a matter of CHOICE, when you actually leap, you LEAP forward in your life and not in fact sideways, into more of the same boiling and bubbling, troubled waters.

 

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  • Sally T

    I’d love to understand how someone so young is so very wise. Razor-sharp post. It’s pretty interesting that I didn’t feel like I was in hot water until you issued the challenge to check & see.

  • Rivke

    I was snoozing in life for many years, then I woke up before being cooked and took such a massive leap, which has changed and is changing who I am for the better.

    I am, like Sally T, constantly impressed that someone so young is so wise and can continually make me reevaluate and assess my life and my goals and how I am fairing. I feel for those who don’t have someone in their life as thoughtful, wise, inspirational and caring as you Vashti. Feeling like there is someone, regardless that we don’t know each other beyond MMQ, that helps keep me in check, who is often the voice in my head asking me is this where I want to be, deserve to be and am I who I want to be, it just makes things so much clearer.

    Many thanks and blessings.

    • Rexx

      Totally with you!

  • Susan_Mangan

    Wow! another perfectly timed post Vashti.  Just yesterday I was that person looking at the “happy couple in the park” wondering why the hell I’m wasting my time on a guy who just keeps breaking my heart.   Time for a big leap in a new direction…..

    Thank you Vashti. I  agree with everything Rivke and Sally T have said.  You are one hell of a lady and I am truly grateful for all that you’ve given me. 

    Oh and it’s so great to have the blog back.  I know it wasn’t down for long but I nearly had a stroke when I couldn’t get onto it.  Slight exaggeration of course.
    But only slight…..

    Have a wonderful day everyone!

    • Rivke

      Hahahaha I was the same. I was freaking out when the site was down. I kept checking every hour to see if it was back up, ranting about not having my MMQ site for sanity. LOL

      • Susan_Mangan

         Ha! Addicted? Us??  Naaaah!!

        • Rexx

          LOL – addicted? …of course not! WE JUST HAVE TO HAVE IT !!! ;-)

  • Nikki

    Brilliant baby and perfectly timed reminder for moi..! X

  • Susana Matos Nunes

    Thank you V. for such great words… love this parallel! Lol stubby!! Once more you’re tottaly right, right about everything, about the fact we must wake up and go for it, jump into the life we reaaly want but with feet on the ground.
    For me is not about a specific date (new year, birthday…), those are just one more day. Maybe I’m wrong… but to me what really matter is: ACTION!!!
    I’m shure I have some things to think about…. ;o)
    wish you all good things, for you and for your amazing, beautiful and great kids (as only they could be, obviously because they are children of who they are).
    with love, friendship, respect, admiration…
    Susana
    XXX

  • Irene Mitropoulos

    Waking up before you let things heat up is the difficult part for most of us and most scary to take a leap. You definately give us new light on things and push us all to live to the fullest. We just had thanksgiving in Canada, and I mentioned that I am extremely thankfull to be a part of the MMQ network/family, it’s been a crazy year and you’ve opened my eyes in many ways. Thank you Vashti for being you. :)

  • Beth Forrester

    Excellent advice for those who feel they are stuck in a rut and want to make a change! I’ve never heard that old wives tale before, but I love it.  Very true, planning a change, step by step, is the often the key to success and no looking back.  The other part is believing in yourself xx

  • Chris

    Wise words on a  weary Wednesday are always welcome. I thought you might like to see the birthday card that a very talented artist friend of mine gave me at the weekend. He’s a fan too. 

  • Serenina F89

    When is Wednesday i’m happy because it meants that it miss 2 day for Saturday……. Crazy eh!

    Well look here; in Capua, in Italy next Wednsday the 17th we will honoring Andy in the anfiteatro and there will be a show of butterflies from all around the world…..  That man keep our heart warm as are you doing with your blog.

    I know,  you probably can’t come but think on us that day!

    Love

    Serena 

    • Malin

      Serenina,

      would you please share some pictures from this show of butterlies with us ?

      Thank you a lot in advance.

      XXX

    • Gholbrook

      That is so incredible.  Wow…talk about the impact of a life! 

    • Susana Matos Nunes

      What a great way to honor such an amazing person! I’m touched…. Thank you for sharing… And if you can share more after…. Thank you! And… Wow!!!

  • Gholbrook

    Very wise words and definitely worth heeding.  I have found that there are certain “warning signs” that alert me to this being “stuck” or state of stagnation.  The first one for me is always that my self-talk or thought-talk becomes quite negative and self-defeating.  I become critical and consumed with negative thinking.  I start to judge – myself and others.  
    There are many more, and it’s been quite a process at becoming aware of the warning signs.  I’m sure they are different for everyone.  I had to start with discovering my own.  
    I have been so busy…refreshing to come back here today.  Please know that though I may not be visiting ‘Maybe’ as often…I ‘Certainly’ don’t stop praying for you and your family.  Hugs from the Sierra-Nevadas.

  • Simona

    Cara Vashti,
    personalmente mi sono sentita un’altra persona il giorno in cui sono diventata mamma per la terza volta cinque anni fa. Sono stata costretta a dimettermi dal lavoro che amavo così tanto dopo 20 anni per seguire i miei figli non potendo contare su altre persone. All’inizio la mia indipendenza personale ne ha risentito parecchio quasi a sfiorare la depressione, ma poi mi sono abituata ad un altro modo di vivere. Più “lento”, responsabile e appagante. Mi ci sono vista bene in questo ruolo. Penso che la mia ambizione per i prossimi anni è di restare sempre nei panni di “sola” mamma. Poi si vedrà.  E’ possibile che ritorni al lavoro….. Quindi penso che la rana cotta a fuoco lento non sempre muore e stare a guardare per un po’ la vita dei miei figli nel periodo più importante della loro crescita non è poi così male….Spero solo di non commettere errori…ma questo è un altro argomento.
    Nell’immediato 2013 resterò sintonizzata su questo blog stimolante, sincero e costruttivo.
    Un abbraccio.
    Simona