My mum, Greek Islands 1970′s

 

Speaking with my gorgeous mum yesterday we got into this great conversation about age.

She is now in the second half of her sixties and is experiencing being treated for the first time, like an, ‘old’ person. To her utter frustration, they now speak to her in a slow, patronizing, talk loudly and lip reading, kind of a manner.

Recently, with a young bank clerk, she found herself experiencing more of the same and before she could help herself, out came,

‘Honestly, I may be in my sixties but I am neither deaf or a f’****ing idiot.’

And then just to add some shock factor, as my mum always enjoys doing. She then yells,

‘And by the way, for your information, us fossils do still have sex, lots of it!’

Whilst it is a very different experience, I spent much of my thirties feeling quite uncomfortable in my body. I was completely confused as to where I now fitted in the ‘age’ market place.

I would find myself standing somewhere, with two cute guys looking my way and just as I was thinking how god damn hot I must be looking, I would then notice the incredibly beautiful 19 year old girl, flicking her golden hair, in the sun light, standing just behind me. And there I was again, being thrown harshly into the, ‘you are just not than young anymore’ basket.

So now, a month away from 39th birthday and eagerly approaching my 40’s, I finally feel like I have found my groove. I don’t completely adore my rear resting a little too often on the top of my thighs, or that my boobs look a little like, 2 fried eggs that aren’t quite good enough to serve. But what I do know, is that my mind is sharper than ever, that my body is healthy and strong and that there are a good thirty years ahead, before I find myself yelling at a bank clerk…

 

 

  • http://twitter.com/Crixacus River

    Vashti, your sense of humor and openness are a breath of fresh air, and it is a pleasure to get to know you through your blog. I am so happy to not only have found you + your blog, but also that you are so open and full of wisdom you are willing to share. God bless you!

  • http://twitter.com/Celestecyan Cyan

    this is really fun but for one….you are not old, and you are gorgeous!!!! good you now know it… and for second, now i know where you got your sense of humor, your mom is just HILARIOUS!!!… sort of like my mom, she is 49 and has this sense of humor that would just crack you up. btw, i’m kinda finding myself always clicking my link to this blog as soon as i log on…. thank you <3

  • Jkuhl

    Dirty thirties can still be alot of fun!

  • Beth Forrester

    Your mum is a hoot! I’m 48 years old and love where I am, it took a long time to get here! lol We will all young(er) at one one and get to our ‘golden years’ if we’re fortunate. I was very inspired by the ladies in the ‘Advanced Style Film’ trailer you posted on FB, I love their fun attitude and refusal to fit into a specific mold based on their age, a youthful spirit goes a long way!

    • Beth Forrester

       Sheesh, I made some terrible typos! :0 “We were all young(er) at one time and will get to our ‘golden years’ if we’re fortunate.” What I meant too say on that line :p

  • Joleneplatt

    I LOVE this!!! It feels like you are speaking right from a running commentary for my life!!!! I love you two thumbs and two saggy boobs way up for this one girlie!!

  • Lidia García

    I am in my 41 years now, it’s true, my ass is more down, my breasts are more falls, my body is more tired, but still keep my big smile, and my mind is still powerful and active, so I have a life still ahead, to maturity …. I just wanna live, live and live and share what I think and what makes me happy ….. You are great, Vashti ….. Love this picture of your mother!
    I always say, I’m living my second  stage of 20 years, and I say and I repeat every day …. Smiling now …………. I feel young and happy in myself regardless of my physical body!

  • Trina

    That’s too funny, I’ve been in that same situation.

  • Cazzacork

    I’m with you girl, a month away from my 40th, I think I’m still hot, I’m hitting the gym, not to impress the men, but to re inforce my own idea of sexiness, being strong, healthy and sharp…

    I’m long past caring how others see me, just focusing on groaning older disgracefully ;)

  • Chrissie

    Hilarious! Love the sex comment! Shock value at its best!
    Reminds me of Kathy Bates in Fried Green Tomatoes after the young bitties take her parking space and she then purposely crashes into their car and says: “Face it, girls. I’m older and I have more insurance.”

  • Falconramonita

    You are hilarious! Staying young means having a young wonderful spirit and attitude. I’m 37 and I feel what you are describing. It’s normal to be worried about aging but like my Mum tells me, “You will age gracefully”!

  • Alexiscarril

    Fantastic!  Words dear to my heart since I just turned 50!!!!

  • Jayne

    Awww, you’re beautiful, and you look very much like your Momma.  :-)  You both have smiles that light you up.  While we do lose things physically with age, I think it forces us to appreciate what we’ve gained mentally.  Unfortunately, it seems we have to mourn the former before we can appreciate the latter!

  • Susana Matos Nunes

    You look very much with your mother!
    About the rest, be proud of yourself, you look very good on your age. Trust me…. Younger and not looking so good! Lol, well… Not só younger, but… ;0)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1703723807 Aylin Francine

    tu es belle Vashti !!!!! 

  • Whkettle

    hi Vashti. did you and Andy get the be here now tats based on the book of the same title?  because the date sept 11 is also date Neem Karoli Babas Mahasamadhi.